Resolutions or Goals?
Yesterday, one of my friends posted her achieved goals for 2015, many of which were her acting/voice-over accomplishments.
Most of it, she was able to achieve. Some of it, she didn’t. Nonetheless, she has written her goals for the New Year, and she’s ready for what 2016 will bring.
Today, another friend of mine wrote her New Year’s Eve wish, which includes finding a good man, and either going to a park to look at the stars or go to a secluded beach with a bonfire.
As you can see, one has long term goals, while the other mostly has short term. Thus, it made me think about what I want to accomplish in the New Year.
The thing is, I don’t make resolutions, nor do I like to make them. I feel with resolutions, they are bound to fail. It’s as if the world is your genie, or Samantha from Bewitched, and you voice your wishes in hopes that with just a nod of a head or a twitch of the nose, your New Year’s resolutions will come true.
But that is not the case; they are bound to fall through.
In a 2010, Examiner’s Sandi Porter wrote that 80 percent of New Year’s resolutions are broken within the first two weeks of the New Year.
“What’s the use of making resolutions if you are going to break them?” Porter wrote.
However, I do have goals I want to achieve in the next twelve months.
So I got to thinking: what is the difference between a resolution and a goal?
In 2011, family physician and University of Ottawa professor Yoni Freedhoff wrote in his blog, Weighty Matters, that one is a hope, while the other is a plan.
“A goal might be to lose weight, get in shape, eat healthier, love better, get a promotion, higher grades in school, etc. Those are things you truly hope you’ll do in 2012,” Freedhoff said.
As for a resolution?
“That’d be the plan that’ll actually get you there,” Freedhoff said.
Porter herself explains the difference between the two.
“A resolution is a fact,” Porter wrote. “It’s a ’formal expression of opinion or intention.’ It’s a resolve or determination to do something…. It’s an absolute. You are going to do ‘this.’”
She writes that a goal is also a fact, but that it’s the result or achievement in which one puts forth effort into.
“A goal is something you strive for, you achieve to accomplish something,” Porter said. “You see the end result and you make steps to get there.”
I do not have many goals for next year. Really, they are goals that I have been working on for the past few years.
My first and big goal for 2016 is to graduate, to finally earn my bachelor’s in May.
The second big goal is to get a job that makes me happy, but is also secured.
The last goal is to get in the habit of PT-ing, or exercising in general.
With the latter, I don’t want to say, “I want to lose 50 pounds and have the Marine Corps body I once had.” No. I just need to make it a habit of exercising regularly. Once I can get that going, then I can move on to the weight loss goal, or find a resolution to achieve that goal.
Regardless of goals, Porter said in that in order to follow through, it has to come from you heart. She asked the following questions below:
What do you really want to do?
Why do you really want to do it?
How are you going to accomplish it?
What is your heart’s desire?
“Forget resolutions and what has not worked in the past,” Porter said. “Look into your heart and see what truly matters to you.”
So what matters to you? And how are you going to achieve it in 2016? Hit me back and say what you want to accomplish.